the best phase

I’ve taken an unintentional hiatus from writing the last few weeks. I have no good excuses, other than I was out of town for a couple days and also have been dealing with pretty bad headaches. When I get those I basically only feel like gouging my eyes out, so writing isn’t an option. I feel like I’m on the upswing again so I can start to get back to my normal self.

It’s also just been a weird couple of weeks. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and soul searching, which never really turns out to be a good thing. A lot has happened that’s got me thinking about my life and how I want it to be. Sigh.

Anyway, continuing on with my 40 Deep Questions…

6. What was the best phase of your life?

This is a really tough one for me. In many ways, I feel like I’m in the best phase of my life now. I love my job, I’m finally done with school, I’m taking steps to work towards the future I want. On the flip side of that, there are many things I’m struggling with right now. Probably one of the times I remember being the happiest was when I was finishing up grad school (the first time) and then the year I lived at home. I really enjoyed my job, even though it made me 100% I needed to return to grad school to pursue School Counseling licensure, I loved being able to see family every day, see my niece grow up, be there when my nephew was born, and build so many memories during that time. It wasn’t all good times though. There was sadness, anxiety, hurt, worry, fear, so many things. So it’s really hard to identify one specific “best phase” of my life, because there have been so many highlights, but each highlight also has some shadows. Maybe that means the best is yet to come?


introverted or extroverted

4. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?

If you knew me when I was younger, you might be surprised that I consider myself an introvert. Don’t get me wrong, I love hanging out with my friends and having a good time, but I just need quiet or alone time in order to recharge. It stresses me out to be busy or out late on weeknights and when I get really stressed I need to just be by myself. Even now sometimes when I am out with my friends, I can be quiet and reserved. It doesn’t mean I’m in a bad mood or I’m not having fun, it’s just how I am.



religious or spiritual

3. Are you religious or spiritual?

I used to think about this a lot when I wasn’t really going to church at all. I don’t believe people need to go to church to have a relationship with God — a person can be spiritual without being religious. In that sense there were several years when I considered myself to be more spiritual. I still felt like God has a presence in my life, I prayed, and I always believed that God had a purpose for me. But the last few years I’ve started to see myself as more of a religious person. Going to church and meeting with other people who share the same views has been much more beneficial than trying to go it on my own. I struggled with finding a church home that would accept my liberal views, and that is important to me. Despite that, I still feel that my beliefs are important and valid and accepted in the ways it really matters.


Continuing on with the “40 Deep Questions to Ask if You Really Want to Get to Know Someone” from Thought Catalog.

#2 – What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself?

If I could change anything about myself, I’d want to be more assertive. It’s something I’ve tried to work on for several years but don’t ever seem to get any better at. I often times keep things in my head that I wish I would just say, I say yes when I really want to say no, and sometimes I’m a bit of a pushover. I’ve always been a people pleaser, but sometime in the last 10ish years I’ve become more introverted, reserved, and less assertive. It’s something I’ll continue to work on and hopefully one day I’ll get better.

let’s go a little deeper

I’ve decided to abandon the writing prompt I was using. I got bored with it and it feels like things I’ve done before. The whole idea behind this blog was not only to have a place to express my feelings, which I’ve always done so much better in writing, but also a place to cultivate my creativity. I might not be creative in many other ways, but writing has always been an outlet for me. When my stupid voice won’t say what I want it to say, my writing always could. Last weekend I stumbled upon a letter I’d written several years ago when I felt like I was really at my peak trying to be creative. I was doing a lot of writing and photography then, and I’m sad I’ve gone away from that. The sources that pushed me to explore that part of myself are no longer present in my life, so I sort of lost that part of me, but I have since been energized to try again.

Since most of the ramblings that come into my head are probably things that no one wants to hear, I’m going off another list, but this is one that will take me deeper. I found it on Thought Catalog and thought it might be worth a shot. It is titled “40 Deep Questions to Ask if You Really Want to Get to Know Someone.” So after all this, I should not only know myself better, but so should everyone who reads this silly thing.

  1. What’s your philosophy in life?

I wasn’t quite sure how to go about answering this question, which isn’t a good sign since it’s the first one. I thought it might just be easier to say some things I believe. I believe that things happen for reason, even if it takes years to understand that reason, or it’s not the reason you want. Things work out the way they’re supposed to. I tend to believe that’s a God thing. Not that I have no control over what happens in my life, but the choices I make are guided and serve a purpose. I believe in helping others and being a decent human being. It’s not hard to think about others before you think about yourself. Sometimes I try harder than I should and I personally struggle because of that, but I’d still rather be that way than be an asshole all the time. I think life is better because of music, dancing, and laughter. Some of the happiest memories I have involve a jukebox, dancing, and laughing with people I care about. I am a big supporter of birthdays. I’ve always loved my birthday; it was really the only holiday I liked for a long time. It was the one day a year when I felt like I could do whatever I wanted, and I’ve had some great birthdays. Now that I’m getting older and don’t have any more milestone birthdays for awhile, I’ve gotten sort of lazy about it. But 28 is coming up soon so maybe I’ll have to do something special again. I also think that friendships are what make lives worth it. I’ve unfortunately moved really far away from my closest friends and have been a crap friend in general for awhile. So I apologize for that and want to try to be better. To my new friends – I’m so thankful for you all!

I don’t know if this qualifies as a philosophy, but I’m sticking with it. There’s so much more I would add, but my battery is going to die so I’ll call it good for now.

bucket list

Day 9 – What’s on your life list/bucket list?

In no particular order….

  • Ride an elephant
  • Travel to: Seattle, Portland, Nashville, Ireland, South Africa, and go back to Switzerland
  • Go zip lining
  • Buy a home
  • Get married
  • Have a kid or two
  • Go to a drive-in movie
  • Learn to play guitar
  • Pay off my student loans
  • Learn how to be assertive
  • Own a cabin by the lake

drives me crazy!

Day 8 – Biggest pet peeve

  • Slow drivers
  • Dirty dishes that don’t get rinsed off
  • When trash is left right on the counter by the trash can
  • When people are late
  • Bad spelling/grammar
  • Clothes left all over the floor
  • When people talk during movies at the theater
  • Bad listeners
  • When people wear outside shoes at the gym and make a mess everywhere


Ok, so maybe this was more than one. Annnnd I might have many more. That might mean I’m a mega B-word. 😦

pretty much all the time… sorry not sorry

dream job

Day 7 – What’s your dream job?

I think I missed a day…. but I’m really excited to talk about this topic today. That’s because I’m so lucky to be doing my dream job every day! I’m a School Counselor and it’s run, challenging, heart-breaking, rewarding, and so much more. All of those things every single day. If you would have asked me 10 years ago if I’d be a School Counselor I would have laughed and said never in a million years. I didn’t think I wanted to work with kids, and I was sort of revolting against working in education since that’s what pretty much all of the women in my family have done/currently do. I just wasn’t going to work in a school, period.

Well, fast forward to the end of grad school in 2012…when I’m realizing that all of my research has been related to working with teens. I needed to be done with school, so I just pushed the feelings down and graduated. Then I worked for a year at a domestic violence shelter and through that process got to go into my old high school to work with middle school girls. I loved it. That experience pretty much solidified my decision that I needed to go BACK to grad school to get a school counseling license. Thankfully I had a ton of support and encouragement, and now here I am!

Now if we’re talking non-realistic, jobs, then I’d LOVE to own a bar/resort that has live music. I love live music in small venues and I think it would be the most fun job ever. It will never happen, but it would be something I’d really enjoy. For a nerdy dream job, I’d also love to be a book editor. Getting paid to read –  what could be better?!

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I can’t say I give too many hugs as a high school counselor, but otherwise it’s me! Haha.

movies & kindness

Day 5 – Favorite movies you never get sick of watching

Something Borrowed

When Harry Met Sally

Those are probably the only two I could watch anytime and not be sick of them. I could literally watch them two days in a row and not even care.


Day 6 – Your last random act of kindness

I don’t know that I can remember a “random” act of kindness that I’ve done… but I feel like I do acts of kindness every day. Maybe I’ll have to come up with some random acts I can start doing. 🙂

happiness & memories

Day 3 – What makes you happy?

Helping other people. Seeing my niece and nephew. Music. Writing. Drunk dancing. Hugs from the little ones. My kitties. Working out. Cooking. Feeling like I make a difference. Church. Sleeping. Photography. To-do lists. Planners.

Day 4 – Best childhood memory

My memory is REALLY bad. I have lots of good memories with my family and friends, whether it was sporting events, trips, or just hanging out together. Some highlights were camping trips, Mackinac Island, Disney World, Badger games, basketball tournaments, trips to Grandparents houses, sleepovers, and many other random memories.