my short skirt

I’m worried about kids today. I’ve said it before that I think kids now are horrible to one another and so much meaner than they were when I was younger. Maybe that’s true, and maybe not, but I just think it would be horrible to grow up nowadays. Bullying is out of control, especially cyber bullying. I just get sick to my stomach hearing about all the statistics, bullying rates, and suicide attempts. I’ve been particularly concerned with how mean girls are to one another. I really don’t think things were that bad when I was growing up.

With my new job, I will hopefully have the opportunity to run a girls group in a local middle school. I would love this opportunity to impact the lives of young people and perhaps change some of their viewpoints. In discussing similar groups that have already been implemented, I was shocked. The facilitator conducted a survey at the beginning of the group in order to determine weekly topics, and included the open-ended question, “What is your biggest fear/concern for your future?” The majority of girls answered with “being raped.” WHAT?! Middle school girls should NOT be most concerned with being raped. Yes, it happens, and yes, girls should know how to protect themselves, but as a #1 concern?! That is unbelievable. A few weeks later, for Teen Dating Violence Awareness month, the girls were creating posters to hang up at the school with info about ways to prevent violence. The discussion at one table turned to what girls can do to prevent being raped. The girls listed things like, “don’t wear short skirts,” “don’t wear tight jeans,” “don’t lead guys on,” etc. Again, WHAT?! It is horrible that girls are getting these messages. With that in mind, here is a monologue from Eve Ensler’s (of the Vagina Monologues) book “I am an Emotional Creature” called, “My Short Skirt.”

My Short Skirt – Eve Ensler

My short skirt is not an invitation
a provocation
an indication
that I want it
or give it
or that I hook.

My short skirt
is not begging for it
it does not want you
to rip it off me
or pull it down.

My short skirt
is not a legal reason
for raping me
although it has been before
it will not hold up
in the new court.

My short skirt, believe it or not
has nothing to do with you.

My short skirt
is about discovering
the power of my lower calves
about cool autumn air traveling
up my inner thighs
about allowing everything I see
or pass or feel to live inside.

My short skirt is not proof
that I am stupid
or undecided
or a malleable little girl.

My short skirt is my defiance
I will not let you make me afraid
My short skirt is not showing off
this is who I am
before you made me cover it
or tone it down.
Get used to it.

My short skirt is happiness
I can feel myself on the ground.
I am here. I am hot.

My short skirt is a liberation
flag in the women’s army
I declare these streets, any streets
my vagina’s country.

My short skirt
is turquoise water
with swimming colored fish
a summer festival
in the starry dark
a bird calling
a train arriving in a foreign town
my short skirt is a wild spin
a full breath
a tango dip
my short skirt is
initiation
appreciation
excitation.

But mainly my short skirt
and everything under it
is Mine.
Mine.
Mine.

feeling lazy

I’m feeling lazy today, but felt like doing some typing. So here’s a little 11 question thing I stole while creeping Marisa’s blog. When my brain isn’t so dead maybe I’ll be able to think of something else to write about.

  1. Do you cook a lot at home, or order a lot of takeout? I’ve been cooking at home a lot now, but I do have my occasional Back Door Cafe nights. 🙂
  2. In reference to above question, what’s your favorite meal to cook or order? I love ordering omelets/breakfast at restaurants because I can’t seem to make omelets at home. I like cooking beef stroganoff (because it’s delicious), paninis, breakfast food (cause it’s still awesome at home too), and trying new recipes. 
  3. Have you ever met a celebrity? If not, who would you want to meet and why? Nope. I’d like to meet Kevin Costner, Pierce Brosnan, or Ryan Gosling (sorry Mitch), because they’re dreamy – and Nelson Mandela because of all the amazing things he has done, and Bill Clinton because I think he looks like my dad and no one else does, so I’d need to investigate up close. And he’s done some awesome stuff as well.
  4. Are you the same person you were in high school? Bahaha. No. 
  5. What 5 words best describe you? Responsible. Honest. Hardworking. Friendly. Respectful. 
  6. If you HAD to live somewhere else than where you live now, where would it be? Any bigger city. Or Switzerland. 
  7. If you HAD to retire right now from your job, how would you spend the rest of your days? This would actually be AWESOME! I’d love to travel, buy/build a house, write, take lots of pictures, spend time with friends/family. 
  8. Do you have any strange pet-peeves? I don’t think any of my pet-peeves are strange. 
  9. Would you rather spend a week in the mountains or a week on the beach? Mountains. 
  10. Movies: Romantic Comedy or Psychological Thriller? Both. But I don’t like cheesy romantic comedies, so psychological thrillers are usually a safer bet. 
  11. What is your most treasured possession? I treasure my photo albums, my cameras, and my music. 

the week the women went

The other day, I saw a commercial for a new show on Lifetime called “The Week the Women Went.” Basically, they go into a town, take out all the women for a week, and see what happens. In the commercial, there’s a little girl screaming, “I WANT MY MOMMY!!!” and the dad’s response is “I want your mommy too!!!” Haha. For some reason, I think this show has the potential to be hilarious. I just think of many of the men I know, and realize how lost they would be without women around, especially when it comes to taking care of kids. There are so many businesses that are “run”by women too – even if they are in lesser roles. In my experience, the secretary or receptionist is often the one who knows what’s going on in a company. 

As I’ve been thinking about this, I started to think about what would happen if it was reversed, if the men were taken out of a town. Honestly, I don’t think things would change much. Of course there would be differences, and every family is different, but overall, I think women are the ones who do most of the heavy lifting in families. I’m guessing the point of the show is to highlight changes in family life, rather than business operations, because that’s where the big differences will come in. It’s kind of a sad reality that women are the ones in charge of taking care of the house and kids, to the point that many men are lost when left alone. 

I’m not saying that I don’t think men are important, because they are, but I just think it would be a fun little experiment to not have women around for awhile and see what happens. Apparently Lifetime had the same thoughts. I’m not a big fan of reality TV, but I think I’ll give this one a shot when it airs.