End of Year Survey 2012

I had some time to kill today and figured I would do one of these silly surveys…since either the world will end today or we’ll be starting 2013 soon! This is the same one I did at the end of 2010, so it will be funny to look back and see what’s stayed the same, and what’s changed.

Year-End Survey 2012

Did you keep your new years’ resolutions, and will you make more for next year?
 In the past, I haven’t really made any resolutions, but I think I will this year.

Did anyone close to you give birth?  Not this year, but in a few more months there will be babies galore!

Did anyone close to you die? No, thankfully.

What countries did you visit?
 None in 2012.

What would you like to have in 2013 that you lacked in 2012?
 A house. But that probably won’t happen.

What date from 2012 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? May 4 – because that’s when I graduated with my Master’s Degree…and Jan 1.

What was your biggest achievement of the year? Finishing my Master’s!

What was your biggest failure?
 Luckily I don’t think I had any major “big fails” in 2012.

Did you suffer illness or injury? Haha…of course. I developed this weird stomach thing. And my body is always dying since I’ve been running again.

What was the best thing you bought?
 I’ve bought lots of little things over the year, new things for my apartment (when I have one again) – and I recently bought an iPad. That was probably the biggest purchase.

Where did most of your money go?
 Rent for the first part of the year, now student loans. 😦

What did you get really, really, really excited about? Finishing school, graduation, visiting friends/family.

What song(s) will always remind you of 2012? “Give Me Everything” by Pitbull.

Compared to this time last year, are you:
i. happier or sadder? — happier! 
ii. richer or poorer? — about the same. I make way less money, but I have fewer bills, so it evens out.

What do you wish you’d done more?
 Visit friends. Travel.

What do you wish you’d done less of? Homework. Worry.

What was your favorite TV program? How I Met Your Mother. Dexter.

Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year?
 Nope.

What was the best book you read?
 The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo series. I couldn’t put them down.

What was your greatest musical discovery?
 I don’t really think I discovered any new bands in the past year. There are some new songs I really like, but the band itself isn’t that great.

What did you want and get?
 I wanted a job related to what I went to school for, and I suppose I got that. I always wanted a dog, and I got that too.

What was your favorite film of this year? Rock of Ages. This is the only one that comes to mind since I just watched part of it last night. I love all the music.

What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?
 I turned 24 this year, and I went out with some friends in Winona. The bar crawl was much smaller than some we’ve done, but that just reflects my age. Haha. And I think my birthday was on a Monday? In any case, it was a good time.

How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2012?
 Hmm…pretty classic and comfortable.

What kept you sane?
 My amazing friends. Being able to spend time by myself. Exercising.

Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? Ryan Gosling. Haha.

What political issue stirred you the most?
 The battle over the right for gays to marry. <— Still from 2010.

Who did you miss? I miss my friends and family that I don’t get to see very often.

Who was the best new person you met?
 I don’t know that I’ve met any new people that stuck around.

What was the nicest thing someone told you about yourself. That I make them happy.

The most touching experience you’ve had this year?
 Being able to become friends with and get to know some of our clients over the past few months.

What did you like most about yourself this year? That I’ve started a routine to get back in shape. So far, so good.

What did you hate most about yourself this year? That I always seem to change my mind after I’ve made a decision.

Was 2012 a good year for you? Yes.

What was your favorite moment of the year? Hearing that there are more babies on the way, little moments with loved ones, and celebrating my graduation.

What was your least favorite moment of the year? Moving away from Winona and having to say goodbye to everyone.

Where were you when 2012 began? At the VFW in Winona.

Who were you with?
 Mitch, Kristina, Shannon, Dustin — I think that’s it? I was drunk probably.

Where will you be when 2012 ends?
 Probably sleeping since I have to work at 7am on New Year’s Day.

Who will you be with when 2012 ends?
 Just me.

Do you have a new years resolution for 2013?
 Not yet, but I think I’ll probably come up with some.

What was your favorite month of 2012? May.

Did you miss anybody in the past year?
 At any given point, I’ve missed a lot of people this year.

What was your favorite record from 2012?
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How many concerts did you see in 2012? No big ones – just bands at bars.

Did you drink a lot of alcohol in 2012?
 Not really. Most of the drinking was concentrated during the first half of the year.

How much money did you spend in 2012?
 I don’t even want to think about it.

What was your proudest moment of 2012?
 Graduation day.

What was your most embarrassing moment of 2012?
 I can’t say that I did anything embarrassing this year.

If you could go back in time to any moment of 2012 and change something, what would it be? Everything happens for a reason, so I wouldn’t change a thing that’s happened in the past year.

What are your plans for 2013?
  I will likely either be changing jobs or heading back to school, continuing to work on getting fit, becoming and aunt again, worrying less, and just seeing what happens.

How are you different now that the year has ended? I’m much more of an old lady. Not being able to drink without getting sick + getting up every day at 5:30 makes me tired and boring.

random acts of kindness

Today my faith in humanity was restored a little bit. I’ve been struggling with trying to understand what is going on in the world since the shooting in CT. It’s hard to fathom what would make someone do that to little kids, and for probably obvious reasons, I’m having more difficulty than usual brushing it off. In any case, today at work I got a call from a woman who says her family always “adopts” another family for Christmas, and she was wondering if we had anyone in need. Her son is 38 and has some developmental disabilities, and this Christmas project is something he always looks forward to. In fact, she admitted she had been too busy to plan anything yet this year and her son actually eagerly reminded her of it last night, so she started making some calls. They don’t have to do it, but they do it every year because they know there are many people out there who wouldn’t have a Christmas otherwise. I did have a family in mind, and when I called the mother to tell her about it, and to ask what the children might need, she was overjoyed because otherwise she would not have been able to get her kids anything. Even though the families will never meet, the ones donating presents will be able to feel joy knowing that they were able to make someone’s holiday better, and the family receiving the gifts will have their faith in humanity restored a little bit too.

With everything bad that has been going on lately, it was nice to get a little pick me up today as a reminder that there are decent people out there willing to help out a stranger.

This woman, and her son, along with a few other things I’ve been reading lately have inspired me to start doing some random acts of kindness. I’ve seen several lists out there, so I plan on stealing some ideas from those, as well as maybe coming up with a few of my own. I just feel like I have a very privileged life, and I’ve worked hard to get to the point I’m at – and I’m reminded every day that others are struggling, so I feel it’s my duty as a fellow human being to help out when I can. We’ll see how it goes. 🙂

karma

I’ve been thinking a lot about karma lately. Once, a few years ago, I did something I shouldn’t have. (Not the only time). For the next several months, I sucked at darts and could never win a game. (As it turns out, I just sort of suck at darts in general, but at this time I was under the illusion that I had skills). This went on for months, and I determined that it must have been karma punishing me for the thing I should not have done. There have been a few other times in my life when I felt like karma was teaching me a lesson – but then the more I think of it the more I question whether karma is a real thing or not. Maybe the result of an action is just the consequences of that action, or of something else that’s going on. This is all too much for me to think about on a Sunday afternoon, but it’s just been swirling around my mind lately.

It’s come up basically because of some news I got a few weeks ago. Someone I don’t like is having a difficult time right now, and I was able to get some pretty intense details about what is going on. I know I shouldn’t feel good about it, because generally I feel bad when others are suffering, but I can’t help but feel like karma has finally caught up with this person. Like, you can only be a shitty person for so long before it will turn on you. Like I said, when I first heard about this, I even said out loud that I felt a little bad, but the friend I was talking to told me to shut up and celebrate the news. And you know what, I did a little. I have a quiet satisfaction knowing that this person got exactly what they deserved. Does that mean I’m a bad person? Maybe it does. As a fellow sufferer of karma’s wrath, I think I’m allowed to take joy in karma sticking it to someone else. It’s just a meaningful lesson that if you’re not a crappy person and don’t make stupid choices, karma will leave you alone.

talking to myself

Since I finished my 30 questions series, I’ve been struggling with ideas on where to go next. Ideas would pop into my head, mostly while I was working or driving, and I wouldn’t write them down, and now they’re gone. So for today, I went browsing through the daily prompts, and found one that was interesting. I already wrote about half of this here, but I think I’ll continue and expand the idea.

Write a letter to yourself when you were 14 years old. Then, write a letter to yourself in 20 years.

Here goes:

Dear Incredibly Awkward 14 Year Old Kris,

You’re in high school now, and lots of things are changing. Try not to worry so much about things you can’t control. Everything will seem like it’s life-or-death important, but it’s not. You’ll soon end up dealing with things that are way beyond your maturity level, and it will make you grow up quickly. It will be frustrating at times, and you’ll feel like you have no idea what you’re doing, but things will be okay. Try to remember to have fun – especially in the summer. In the next few years, you’ll have lots of ups and downs in one important relationship in your life. Sometimes you’ll real hurt, but things will work out alright. You’re still friends, which is most important. You’ll soon realize that some people in your life will overreact and betray your trust – but it’s just because she cares. Talk to her. Work it out. Trust your instincts. When something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Learn to say “no” to people, and don’t let others walk all over you. Try to enjoy high school, take some fun classes instead of ones that will look good to colleges. Work harder to keep some of your friendships – no boy is worth losing a best friend over. Similarly, no girl is worth losing a best guy friend over. You’ll miss those friendships when you’re older, even though you’ve got some of them back a little bit. Try to set a good example for others, even if it’s the hard thing to do. You won’t feel like you’re missing out if you’re not drinking in high school. Always work hard, but remember that you’re just a kid too.

Dear 44 Year Old Kris,

Wow, 44 – that’s hard to think about! I hope you’re living the life you want. Twenty years ago, you still didn’t really know which path to follow. I hope whatever choice you made, and whatever career you’ve chosen, is making you happy. If it’s not, quit and find your passion. You’re too young, and at the same time, too old, to be doing something that makes you miserable. If you’re still not sure what you want to do, think about how you feel about going to work everyday. From past experience, if you’re getting a bad headache everyday, it probably means there’s room for improvement. I hope by this point you have whatever type of family you want. Twenty years ago, your vision of your future family was unclear. If you decide you want to have children, I hope you’re fully realizing the joys of that decision. And if you decide that you do not want children, I hope you’re content with that and don’t have to justify your lifestyle to others. My wish for you is that you’re enjoying and loving those around you with all that you have. I hope you’re the “cool aunt” to the kiddos in your life – the ones they can confide in, call when they did something stupid, and actually want to hang out with. Keep on keeping on, lady. If there’s things in your life you wish were different, don’t wait any longer, make the change NOW!