Since I finished my 30 questions series, I’ve been struggling with ideas on where to go next. Ideas would pop into my head, mostly while I was working or driving, and I wouldn’t write them down, and now they’re gone. So for today, I went browsing through the daily prompts, and found one that was interesting. I already wrote about half of this here, but I think I’ll continue and expand the idea.
Write a letter to yourself when you were 14 years old. Then, write a letter to yourself in 20 years.
Dear Incredibly Awkward 14 Year Old Kris,
You’re in high school now, and lots of things are changing. Try not to worry so much about things you can’t control. Everything will seem like it’s life-or-death important, but it’s not. You’ll soon end up dealing with things that are way beyond your maturity level, and it will make you grow up quickly. It will be frustrating at times, and you’ll feel like you have no idea what you’re doing, but things will be okay. Try to remember to have fun – especially in the summer. In the next few years, you’ll have lots of ups and downs in one important relationship in your life. Sometimes you’ll real hurt, but things will work out alright. You’re still friends, which is most important. You’ll soon realize that some people in your life will overreact and betray your trust – but it’s just because she cares. Talk to her. Work it out. Trust your instincts. When something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. Learn to say “no” to people, and don’t let others walk all over you. Try to enjoy high school, take some fun classes instead of ones that will look good to colleges. Work harder to keep some of your friendships – no boy is worth losing a best friend over. Similarly, no girl is worth losing a best guy friend over. You’ll miss those friendships when you’re older, even though you’ve got some of them back a little bit. Try to set a good example for others, even if it’s the hard thing to do. You won’t feel like you’re missing out if you’re not drinking in high school. Always work hard, but remember that you’re just a kid too.
Dear 44 Year Old Kris,
Wow, 44 – that’s hard to think about! I hope you’re living the life you want. Twenty years ago, you still didn’t really know which path to follow. I hope whatever choice you made, and whatever career you’ve chosen, is making you happy. If it’s not, quit and find your passion. You’re too young, and at the same time, too old, to be doing something that makes you miserable. If you’re still not sure what you want to do, think about how you feel about going to work everyday. From past experience, if you’re getting a bad headache everyday, it probably means there’s room for improvement. I hope by this point you have whatever type of family you want. Twenty years ago, your vision of your future family was unclear. If you decide you want to have children, I hope you’re fully realizing the joys of that decision. And if you decide that you do not want children, I hope you’re content with that and don’t have to justify your lifestyle to others. My wish for you is that you’re enjoying and loving those around you with all that you have. I hope you’re the “cool aunt” to the kiddos in your life – the ones they can confide in, call when they did something stupid, and actually want to hang out with. Keep on keeping on, lady. If there’s things in your life you wish were different, don’t wait any longer, make the change NOW!